My finace' continues to watch porn or myspace (softporn)?

Help...I am so over this. I have been with him for 1 year, he proposed and i said yes. I said that after months of finding out his addiction to porn i told him that I don't want to be with him..I cant handle him watching porn...To me it is mental betrayel. When we go out..his eye catches only the pretty girls then he acts as if he is just looking around all over the place. I caught him watching porn and confronted him. He said he has been watching for years and had never been in love before and now is trying to stop.

Now that stopped and now my space with all the low lifes on there trying to look like models or porn stars strutting their stuff... He never gets jealous of me either. When he is too busy looking at other women...there are 10 men looking at me.

He just doesnt see what is going on...I am an attractive young woman now..and he does this...what happens tommorrow. in the past he has also said he thinks about other women while making love to me at times....is this right?

My finace' continues to watch porn or myspace (softporn)?

Try K9 Webfilter.

It is free and completely blocks any questionable content.

http://www.k9webprotection.com

I have tried many filters and this one is the best!

Absolutely no way around it.

My finace' continues to watch porn or myspace (softporn)?

You should probably leave him because this will be a problem for the rest of your relationship. If you are not comfortable with his actions, than don't be with him.

My finace' continues to watch porn or myspace (softporn)?

when your on a diet you can still read the menu, just not eat.

alot of people use flirting and porn to enhance their own love life.

when he stops looking then worry cause he has found something on the side.

My finace' continues to watch porn or myspace (softporn)?

i have been with men that honestly don't look at porn, some do. It is not a threat to your relationship if they do...it is just a thing that they do and that is all. No reflection on you at all. However if you can't deal with it, move on...simple.

My finace' continues to watch porn or myspace (softporn)?

Break up with the douche bag. You know you deserve better!

My finace' continues to watch porn or myspace (softporn)?

I think the fact that he thinks of other women while having sex with you is unfair to you. As fa as porn it is a matter of preference. Let him know you are not comfortable with it.

My finace' continues to watch porn or myspace (softporn)?

You sound a little insecure. I don't mean that in a bad way. Let's face facts.. 99% of men look at other women and 99% of men enjoy watching porn. the fact that he looks at women when he's with you and how obvious it is, IS a little disturbing. I'm not sure what you can do about the porn thing.. my husband's addicted to it.. but it doesn't bother me... If it bothers you so much AND he can't seem to change his ways, then maybe you should find someone else.

My finace' continues to watch porn or myspace (softporn)?

Yeah, the answer id so clear as water -LEAVE THE SEX ADDICTED PORN ADDICT QUICK!! When you marry you will inherit his credit cards bills that are probably loaded with PORN PURCAHES - When you go to register for wedding gifts, you will be picking China, he'll be asking for gift cards to Porn Sites - Wow, that sounds like LOVE!! Wake up CHICK !! Pick up your self respect @ the door %26amp; leave!!!

My finace' continues to watch porn or myspace (softporn)?

I know people think porn is not a big deal, but I would be bothered to know that my husband was thinking about somebody else while he was being intimate with me. Just let him go. You will find somebody that deserves you. Do you want this to be an issue for the rest of your life!!!???

My finace' continues to watch porn or myspace (softporn)?

I agree with river08 -- not all men look at porn. Some just aren't into it and others would be if they were single but they feel it is wrong if they are in love with someone. I have been with one guy who never looked at porn at all and two who occasionally did, but not that often. One of the ones who occasionally did was my fiance. We talked about it and I told him it makes me uncomfortable and I don't understand why he looks at other naked women if he is fulfilled with me. He agreed that he didn't want to look at porn b/c he's in love with me, he apologized and said he would stop, and I never once saw him do it again. It had been an issue for awhile and after I finally sat him down and honestly talked to him about my feelings, he even offered to put in a porn filter or a website tracker so I could trust that he wasn't looking at porn. I think a man who loves you will do anything to make you happy. Not looking at porn is NOT a huge sacrifice for a guy in love. Don't listen to people who say "it's normal" or "they need it"... baloney. Now, there are some ways to spice things up in your relationship since you know he likes porn but is not looking at it out of love for you. You can give him your own naughty pictures to look at when you're not around. You can watch porn with him... I did that with my fiance and it is fun when you see that it is just fantasy and not something he is doing on purpose to be mean to you. In fact it can be a turn on IMO. Anyway I say just be honest with him and if he doesn't go to great lengths to make you happy, then don't marry him, because there ARE plenty of guys out there who don't watch porn (or wouldn't for you), and you can find one since it makes you uncomfortable. Good luck.

My finace' continues to watch porn or myspace (softporn)?

This is an addiction. I know because I was there. Whether or not all these other people think its ok is meaningless- YOU have a problem with it. I'm not saying leave him. But by all means do not marry him until he makes this a lot less of a problem. Even when he quits pursuing this, I can tell you that it will pursue him. And it will wreck anything you have. You will continue to feel unvalued and unloved, and he Will sink deeper and deeper into a depression/guilt/medication cycle. If he;s legitimate about quitting, I am more than willing to help him find resources to help. Email or im me (kttphoenix), and he may do the same.

My finace' continues to watch porn or myspace (softporn)?

I'm really tired of women being told to tolerate things they are umcomfortable with just because "its the nature of men" and "they can't help it." We're not cavemen anymore- there's such thing as self-control, and any man who isn't willing to give up such a habit for the woman he claims to love has a serious problem. Nobody has the right to tell you that you have to "get over" something. If it makes you uncomfortable and you don't like it- leave it at that. Why do men always want to push women into thinking like them and liking the things they like? You have a right to put conditions in your relationships. Porn is one of them if you want it to be.

Everybody always says that its not a big deal, its just a fantasy, blah blah. Well if it isn't such a big deal, why do they make such a big deal when you ask them to stop viewing it? Obviously its something they need- and anybody who NEEDS sexual stimulation from an outside source when they have a willing source available has their own problems and issues to deal with. Porn CAN be an accessory to a sex life (if you watch it together or get ideas from it) but it should never be a replacement or necessity. If he can't live without porn, he's just gonna have to live without you. Trust me, there are men out there who are willing to make that sacrifice for the woman they love. Any man (or woman) who can't give that up for somebody is pretty selfish.

If it hurts your feelings, that's enough of a reason. He has no right to make you like it or accept it. Everybody has their boundaries- nobody has a right to tell you to push them except you.

My finace' continues to watch porn or myspace (softporn)?

They have porn on MySpace? OK...

Uhm, just because he watches porn doesn't mean he has an additction. You have a skewed view of things. Why are women sooo threatened by it?

Oh, yes, because those women have bigger boobs, bigger booties, nicer bodies. Please, they guy asked you to marry him, no some porn star. Guys look, that's just the way it is. You can't tell me for a second, you've never looked at a cute guy...ever while dating. Please.